” Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as Christ forgave you ” Ephesians 4:32
Q. Why should we forgive others when we are wronged?
So much meaning in one word. One word that is central to so many issues in life. One word that causes so much angst for so many. One word in action that can change any course of events. So why is it that humanity struggles with forgiveness?
What does it literally mean to forgive ; to relinquish the feelings of anger and resentment towards someone, to pardon those who have caused us offence.
You’ve heard it said an eye for an eye, probably declared by one who is withholding forgiveness. It is a natural reaction to want justice for wrongdoing, and enacting it is an integral part of society.
When we extend a pardon to someone, when we let go of the wrong, it does not condone what they have done nor does it release them from the consequences of their actions. In actual fact, we are the ones who are released. The weight of harbouring, anger and resentment, the decaying power of bitterness, eats away at our own life, not that of the perpetrator.
“Live a life filled with love for others, following the example of Christ, who loved you and gave himself as a sacrifice to take away your sins.” 5:2
” get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of malicious behaviour.” 4:32
” You must display a new nature because you are a new person, created in God’s likeness…” 4:24
All that is within us will say ” no, I can’t forgive, it’s not fair, it’s not right “, the bigger the violation the more our inner self protests, the more there is to forgive, the harder it is. We can not do it in our own strength, we need an spiritual empowering..
” I pray that from his glorious, unlimited resources he will give you mighty inner strength through his Holy Spirit. And I pray that Christ will be more and more at home in your hearts as you trust in him. May your roots go down deep into the soil of God’s marvelous love. And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high and how deep his love really is. May you experience the love of Christ, though it is so great you will never fully understand it. Then you will be filled with the fullness of life and power that comes from God.” 3:16-19
We are asked to forgive as Christ forgave us , but He will give us the inner strength and power to do so, enriching our lives with peace and harmony.
Are you holding on to an offence or hurt, is there unforgiveness buried in your heart? Trust Him and let it go.