” Friends love through all kinds of weather……” Proverbs 17:17 The Message
One of the things I love about the festive season, Christmas, is the motivation to catch up with friends where the business of life has intruded upon quality time. As another year draws to a close, and the beautiful spirit of this special time sinks into our being we are reminded of the true purpose of life. Relationship . We stop, and pause, pondering over the year spent. Who has shared our journey, who has travelled in a different direction, who have we lost sight of along the way ?
Just this week I was able to touch base with a special friend. Our lives have taken a very different path and our once weekly catch – ups have been all but non- existent . Work commitments and family responsibilities taking precedence.
An evening of coffee and cake ensued. We laughed and talked, filling each other in on all the happenings. The highs and lows, family, work , church and our spiritual walk. In those few short hours we were able to nurture our friendship. To re-connect and strengthen our relationship. We’ve been through a lot together, shared some of the darkest and most difficult periods, navigated seasons together , and experienced fun adventures. She is my Sista , our paths crossed, through His divine planning in order that we may DO life together. Learn from one another, encourage one another, and sometimes bring one another into check.
Friendship, true friendship lasts through all of life’s twists and turns, forges through hardship, misunderstanding, separation of time and distance and takes advantage of momentary intervals to invest in relationship.
” Friends come, and friends go, but a true friend sticks by you like family.” Proverbs 18:24
Reach into your heart, look into the special place where the emotions of friendship reside. Is there someone you are impressed to re-connect with, have you neglected to nurture a bond, do you need to forgive and mend a bridge ?
Friendship is not so much about what we can receive but what we can give. To contribute to another’s journey in an encouraging and positive way.
Don’t wait until tomorrow , be a friend today.
” The wrinkles of friendship are fine creases left by years of sharing tears and laughter- they are lines that add beauty and grace to this wonderful gift from God…….reminding us of the journey we could not have traveled alone. ”
– Whispers of Friendship, Barbour Publishing.
I penned this piece 2 1/2 years ago and stumbled across it in my notes today. Still so relevant and such a timely reminder for me, so I thought I would share.
My Thought for the Day ” Stop Focussing on what you don’t have cause you’ll miss what you’ve already got! ”
Boy, did I need a good kick in the pants, and I received it recently via a kids movie!
There is definately a conspiracy out there to get into big peoples heads. Yes, I cried and spent a good amount of time trying to swallow the persistent lump in my throat, who’d have thought that an animation would leave me pondering my present state of being, where I’m at, where I’ve been and where I’m headed!
Movie title… ironically ” UP ”
Brief overview……Nerdy but very cute boy meets girl of the same, childhood sweethearts sharing the same dreams and passion for adventure fall in love, marry, endeavour to save for their ultimate goal, to visit a faraway land filled with mystery and intrigue. Children yhey would love but unfortunately no. Still saving for their dream, the years roll by as life gets in the way. He finally buys the tickets….she passes away (you could have heard a pin drop). The lump in my throat grew to mammoth proportions at this point. Very cute kid enters his life, he decides to follow the dream, kid gets caught up in the adventure, kid becomes the focus of the journey, but he still has his eyes set on the past and what he didn’t achieve almost missing the new adventure awaiting him. He finally realises that his past was full and rich and wonderful and now it was time for a new chapter and what an amazing chapter it turned out to be.
Oh my gosh, being the dreamer of big dreams that I am, and up to my elbows in the season of teenage girls, the 40’s my lifes half over crisis (I know, the glass is half full, need an attitude adjustment), time for a new direction, time to follow my passions and dreams (once I can identify them with some clarity) struggling with who I am now that my girls are more independent, what is my purpose (knowing full well that being a mum is a privilege and a purpose) trying to come to terms with my failures and letting them go…….. I could prattle on but I think I’ll stop there, I’m sounding totally dysfunctional.
Reality check ! I’m missing what I’ve already got and if I blink I’m going to miss it totally.
It only seems like yesterday that I held my beautiful first born in my arms, captivated by her, wondering what the future held, that was 4 children and 18 years ago! I’ve been so focussed on what I haven’t achieved and what I want to achieve that it is obscuring the blessings of all that I am experiencing now. Just the other day, my hubby and I were able to spend a day out on the lake fishing, just the two of us, courtesy of the now season (teenage girls social calendars simultaneously coinciding). It’s a little bit like reading a book, succumbing to impatience after reading the first chapter and skipping through to the last missing what’s in the middle and then having to constantly flick back trying to fill in the gaps. The best bits are always inbetween the beginning and the end.
There is nothing wrong with dreaming. God gives us desires and passions but life is not about what I haven’t achieved, it’s about appreciating what I have, living in and enjoying the present, being grateful and content and trusting that He knows the desires of my heart and will bring them to pass.
” And I am sure that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on that day when Christ Jesus comes back again. ” Philippians 1:6
” Love the Lord your God, with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength ” Deuteronomy 6:5
Q. How do you live out your love for God?
Life is a continuing journey, and practically living out our love for God evolves as we travel along with Him. Love progresses through many stages. In the beginning it’s full of excitement and anticipation. With our new found love of God we are zealous evangelists telling anyone who will listen, and even those who won’t, about Him. Moving on into the period of stabilisation , we begin to learn about Him, to understand and get to know Him better. Reading the Word and developing a lifestyle with Him, learning to communicate with Him. Many of us will go through a period where our love is tested. Difficult times may come our way where we must choose to hold tightly to that love or we allow it to slip away. Some, may fall in love with Him all over again.
And then we arrive at the place of knowing, He is definitely the one. He is always there no matter what, we are altogether lovely enough for Him just as we are, warts and all. He knows us inside and out, there is nothing we can do that will make Him not love us, absolutely nothing.
My life needs to be a reflection of how much God loves me. I love because He first loved me. If I can encourage those around me, help others to feel comfortable , accepted and valued then I am sharing what He has given to me. Life’s sojourn and love are a journey full of obstacles but my purpose is to “Love God, my God, with my whole heart; love Him with all that’s in me, love Him with all I’ve got.” The Message